Whoa, whoa, slow down, time. I still have so much to do before the wedding. Going over my detailed checklist (made for me by one of my crew aka bridesmaids), I was pleased to find myself checking off so much, like book a caterer, buy your dress, block hotel rooms, set up your website etc. Yes! I was in checking off heaven…until, the pace slowed down, soon I found that my pencil had stopped moving. Suddenly, the process of checking over the 5 page checklist became a reminder of the many things I still have to do.
What’s funny about being a bride to be is that once you start to feel like you have a grip on things, a found confidence in organization and style, a new challenge lands on your doorstep (not to mention more financial costs!). What’s really funny about being a bride to be, is that when I finally get to see the fruits of my labor, when I finally feel like my planning and organization worked well, like I mastered this crazy design challenge, it will be the day of the wedding. And then, it’ll all be over.
I’ve told my friends and family that “planning a wedding is like collecting puzzle pieces into a box, while hoping that on the wedding day, all the pieces will come together and fit just right.”
There are days when I know that I’m on track, that I know what I’m doing, that it’s going to be the most magical event for everyone invited and involved– the perfect garden wedding, the epitome of romance. Then, there are just as many days when my heart pounds a little louder, and I basically freak out that it’s going to be a disaster, an enormous expense, a tacky presentation, and I think, Who am I kidding? I’m way in over my head.
Swimming through all these thoughts and deadlines to get somewhere is the real challenge. Finding confidence within yourself, believing in your own design, standing up to others, being friendly as well as firm and balancing your energy output so you don’t neglect all your regular duties are all important parts to the process. Yes, planning a wedding includes so much more than planning a wedding.Planning a wedding is so much more than planning a wedding. Click To Tweet
Some of the things I’ve taken care of already (not without the help of my family and friends!):
Catering (including drinks).
Day planner booked.
“Theme” of wedding.
Flower girl dresses.
Save the Dates.
Hotel room block.
Stuff that still needs to happen:
Shoes (for me and bridesmaids).
Meeting the day planner at the venue.
Rehearsal dinner booking.
Transportation for guests.
Vows and readings.
And all the stuff I still haven’t thought of yet!
Got any reminders or advice? I’m all ears (or in this case, all eyes for reading comments!)
Bonus wedding inspo pics!
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