Of course we always say, “I care,” but saying it means nothing without showing it. Whether its an eager attempt at displaying gratitude to a relative we’ve taken for granted, or an aim to reassure our other half that we do, in fact, care, or a small reminder of your loyalty to a friend, showing that you care carries more power than any phrase, notecard or expensive gift.
By demonstrating special attention to the person, helping the person, validating the person or encouraging the person etc. you can really communicate that you care. Here’s some tips to get you started!
8 Ways to Show a Person You Care
1. Interview the person. Not officially, but ask a few questions. Gain some insight. By interviewing, you are asking more than one question, you are truly and actively curious. You might want to ask about how he/she got the idea to start doing yoga; how does it improve his/her lifestyle; is it hard to attend the yoga classes regularly… This goes beyond the “I know what he/she likes;” this evolves into detailed understanding of a person’s values and choices. Ask your loved one more than one question about his/her day. Curiosity shows regard. Click To Tweet Curiosity can be like admiration.
2. Notice something. Make an effort to point out literally anything related to the person. It could be part of his/her clothing ensemble or an art piece he/she has hanging on the dining room wall. It doesn’t even need to be a new item or a teensy detail. Simply making a point to note an interesting choice of art or a clever idea for organizing books etc. conveys a concentrated awareness and appreciation.
3. Bring a practical and specific gift to the person, not a bouquet of flowers, but something that he/she will use regularly or will make his/her life a little bit easier. For example, two of the most thoughtful gifts I’ve received from friends are a coloring book for adults and an already divided and sectionalized monogrammed binder for planning my wedding. A quirky way that I relieve stress is by coloring. Most of my coloring books are throwbacks to my childhood like My Little Pony or CareBears, however this coloring book has hilarious pictures aimed to entertain adults while they color. How perfect is that? The binder was also an epic gift not only because it helps me organize but also it’s so pretty! My friend designed it in my favorite color and wedding theme. Both these gifts showed me that these two friends know me really well; they went out of their way to ensure whatever they gave me would specifically enhance my individual lifestyle.
4. Ask the person for an update on any aspect of his/her life, especially if you are aware of an ongoing challenging situation or specific goal he/she is dealing with. This demonstrates you are interested, proactive and, most importantly, you have been listening.
5. Throw them a funny text, preferably an inside-joke-based text, randomly in the middle of the day. This conveys that you are thinking of the person even during a workday and, even better, that you cherish happy, individual moments spent with he/she.
6. Say what you’re thinking! It seems so obvious, but it’s actually not. Think of how many times someone may have asked you, “So, what do you think of the new car?” You might have responded, “Well, obviously I love it of course.” No, it’s not an obvious “of course” answer. Remember that your friends, family and other halves can’t read your mind. Just because you think he/she looks nice does not excuse you from verbalizing it. What does it mean if it’s not shared? Expressing positive feedback involves clear communication and focus on the accompanying party.
7. Go out of your way to initiate an activity that he/she particularly enjoys (not having anything to do with what you enjoy). For instance, you guys might watch movies together regularly. You both look forward to it. You always make sure to pick a movie together. Instead, one Friday, select a movie you know he/she likes that you normally would not suggest. Again, this shows how well you know the person, how closely you listen to him/her and how you prioritize him/her, even when it’s not necessary or expected.
8. Offer to help. You can simply pick up the phone and ask if there’s anything you can do, anything at all, like call and see if he/she needs you to pick up milk or lightbulb on your way over. Yep. It’s that simple.
Thank the person again for something he/she did for you a long time ago. Not only are you reinforcing your appreciation, but also you’re demonstrating his/her prominent place in your mindset.
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