“Well I think everyone struggles with self-love,” the late Phillip Seymour Hoffman once said.
Here’s an interesting question: What are your good habits? Does it take longer for you to think of some good habits? It does for me, and I suspect this is not because I only have bad habits, but because I focus too much on the “fixing.” However, focusing on what can potentially be “fixed” or improved on isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Constantly evolving for the better is an asset. Striving to enhance our selves or our circumstances ensures that our lives stay fresh rather than stagnant.
On the other hand, overly criticizing can be counterproductive, draining us, slowly stealing our energy and hope. Every once in a while, it’s good to sit back and admire your style. What is it about my life that allows me to attain goals on a regular basis? Well, it must be the good habits. Right?
5 Good Habits of Mine
1. I enjoy breakfast everyday. Even at 6 am, I make sure I get at least 15 min of breakfast/coffee/HGTV time. It helps me wake up at a more natural pace, and it ensures that I prioritize breakfast to keep my blood sugar stable.
2. I mess around with my dog (or cat). My dog is high energy and loving, especially at dusk. She gets profoundly more hyper in the early evenings (must be a dog thing). During my most stressful weeks, it’s easy to neglect her social needs. Nevertheless, even when I’m knocking my brains out with work, I make sure to spend at least ten or fifteen minutes wrestling with her or stealing toys from her. It puts things into perspective. What matters most is keeping our joy elevated (and your dog stable).
3. I hydrate. I’m good about staying hydrated. I own a few reusable water bottles, and I take one with me everywhere, everyday. This is actually a good habit that replaced my bad habit of drinking diet coke at work. One day I woke up, and realized how much money I spent on soda. I also noted that the ups and downs of the caffeine were making me more irritable, less hydrated and dependent. I resolved to drink water all day instead. It worked!
4. I create. I am constantly creating. My creations will range anywhere from seashell hair barrettes (sold on etsy btw), to growing an herbal garden, to painting something trippy, to writing an essay about politics.
5. I learn. Another daily habit of mine is to learn. I am always on the lookout to gather more information, to critically analyze or to research. Sometimes, my learning is initiated by an interesting article or a documentary. Sometimes I learn just by thinking; I reassess my experiences and behaviors. I also learn a lot by doing. This is something I’ve become proud of. I recognize that this ability to self-teach is a big lucky charm in my life. For example, I have self-taught myself the following skills: surfing, makeup techniques, painting, gardening, yoga, meditation, blogging, training a dog etc. Not bad right? A few years ago, I would have felt too shy or insecure to admit it, but today, I can easily say, I am very good at self-teaching.
Perhaps, Mark Twain understood a potential solution to our struggles with self-love:A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval. #marktwain #quote Click To Tweet
What are some of your good habits?
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