We are like two different species suddenly. We can feel each others’ vibes and energies just like animals do, but as we struggle to assemble the right phrases, we morph into cats and dogs, howling and hissing. Maybe it is true that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Based on the evidence at hand, it is the truth.
Like an astronaut meeting another life form, each gender struggles to communicate. However, this struggle can actually become a moment of harmony.
4 Ways To Get Your Partner to Finally Understand You
1. Analogy. Use a comparison to change a point of view or offer perspective. For example, if you feel like your partner doesn’t understand a decision make a comparison like, “I need to go get coffee with Sally right now; she’s in a moment of crisis. It’s like going to help your friend tow his car.”
2. A hand-written letter. Write each other letters explaining your ideas. Read them apart from each other, perhaps in different rooms. Give each other some time to process. This letter technique prevents complications like interrupting each other or raising voices. Instead the person focuses on what’s written right in front of him/her.
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3. A good night’s sleep. If you both really aren’t getting through to one another, the best thing you can do is sleep on it. Just explain each person’s point of view and then ask each other, “would you mind sleeping on it?” The morning never fails to give you answers and insight.
4. Adventure. Change the environment that you’re both in. Sometimes a familiar environment makes deep conversation vulnerable to lazy bias or bad communication habits. Leave the space and find somewhere new to chat like a rock climbing wall or a dewy dive bar. In a public space, both parties are more likely to use their manners and appropriate social skills.
I’m so pleased to announce that three of my poems, “Slots,” “Scraping” and “Make a Decision” have been published in Barking Sycamores Literary Magazine Issue 13. Barking Sycamores is dedicated to neurodivergent literature and its craft. I’m so honored to be a part of this project. Barking Sycamores Issue 13
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